Dating your best friend39s ex wife dating tips for lesbians or bisexuals
Under what circumstance is it acceptable to pursue your friend’s former love interest? because I just don’t see why of all the people in this world you need to choose to put yourself in such a complicated situation. Read on for Fox News Magazine editor Meghan Sharp’s guest blog about this very subject: Simon Cowell recently sparked some scandalous headlines when it emerged that he is set to become a father — with the wife of his close friend.Some reports indicate the relationship between the married couple was already over by the time Cowell moved in. While many details remain unknown, this revelation raises a question: Is your friend’s ex always off-limits?If you find yourself starting to fancy your mate’s ex, you need to ask yourself whether it’s simply lust cravings for human contact or something more.Often it’s hard to tell the two apart, especially if you’ve not been in a relationship or hooked up with anyone in a while.It's difficult to meet people you're romantically interested in beyond an already-defined circle, and outside of your city's queer scene, most people you run into are likely to be straight.Even if you meet someone to whom you think you have no previous connection, a 10-minute conversation almost always reveals that she went to high school with your college roommate, used to be on a volleyball team with that girl from your book club, and had a six-month stand with your favorite barista.Let me say once more, it’s never going to be the best idea you had, but if you honestly do believe their ex is your future love of your life, here’s how to have the best shot at keeping the friendship You’ll probably get one of three reactions: they’ll be genuinely happy you’ve met someone you really like and won’t care; they’ll be upset and may well walk out; or pride will make them say, “Sure, go ahead! You’ll be strongly tempted to gossip about the person you both know, each repeating what they said about you (never dreaming you’d end up going out) and be massively curious about how their relationship was and how you compare.
Just because they did it in Friends, it doesn’t mean it’s OK in real life, guys.
“The only time it might be okay is if your friend has moved on to another relationship,” she says.
“Even if the two of them have split, emotions take a while to heal, so it’s unlikely that the friend is going to be okay with it.” But not all relationship experts see it this way.
If you can distinguish between the two and it’s nothing more than an urge for a wild boot-knocking, then stop right there because it’s definitely not worth it.
For me, the whole ‘follow your heart’ or ‘the heart wants what the heart wants’ cliches should be thrown out the window here.